See, we base our identity and confidence on our achievements and missteps of the past. It makes kind of sense as the past is what got us there. Our struggles and successes formed us and made us who we are.
But here’s the thing. What we tend to forget is that the “current us” is not the “final version” of us. It is only a draft work in progress, so to say.
The moment I realized that was the moment that changed my life.
Why do I say that? For two reasons…
First, with this in mind, meaning that you are not supposed to yet be perfect, know everything, do everything well, would you not cut yourself some slack when you are feeling down and inadequate and treat the current situation accordingly? Realizing that you might struggle for now, but trusting that you can (and will) figure things out and master anything while growing personally.
Second, believing that you are working and growing towards a better you, does this not allow you to consult your future self when you struggle and ask “What would the ideal me do in this situation? What do I need to know now, what would I need to do now, how would I need to behave now, so that my future me would look back and be proud of today?”