When we are about to make a big change in our lives, we find ourselves in front of an abyss, a gap, that separates us from our destination.
We try to close that gap by looking for information that would answer all our questions.
But information can’t close that gap, because it is not help open by the lack of information. It is held open by our fears, self-limiting beliefs and doubts.
Here are three ways to silence those doubts and take that leap of faith.
- Buddy up with your mind. Reassure your mind. Build self-confidence by reminding yourself of previous experiences where you did dare to take a leap of faith.
- Tap into courage. When there is no previous experience, you need to tap into another resource: courage. Decide to be courageous. Decide to take that risk. Self-confidence requires experience, courage requires nothing but choice
- Create a compelling picture of the future. Instead of collecting information to answer the unlimited questions that are holding you back, collect information to make the destination more attractive. If you constantly visualize what could be, you will reach a point of no return. You will reach a threshold, where you will have brainwashed yourself, created such a vibrant picture of the future, and such an itch that you cannot afford not to jump.
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VIDEO TRANSCRIPT AND QUOTES:
Hi everybody, it’s Tasso.
When you want to make a rather big change in your life, like quitting your job and pursuing your dream or getting married, you find yourself standing at an abyss, at a gap, that separates you from your destination.
And what ends up happening is that you try to gather as much information as you can, in order to fill that gap and to feel more comfortable in moving forward. However, no matter how much information you gather, no matter what you do, you will never feel comfortable and you will always feel that you’re 80% there.
Have you ever experienced this?
I certainly have, and I can tell you, when looking back at those situations, I figured out one thing that I wanted to share with you.
The reason why you cannot close that gap with information is because that gap is not held open by the lack of information. It is held open by your self-limiting beliefs, your self-doubts, and your fears.
And that’s why people always say, “At some point of time you just have to jump. You have to take that leap of faith and just move forward without knowing everything.”
But how do you do that? How can you possibly make that step? In this post, I want to share with you three things that, I believe, are the basis to making such a step.
Number one: buddy up with your mind.
In a previous post, I told you that your nagging mind or these voices you have in your head are actually your friend. You can picture your mind as your bodyguard.
And because a bodyguard is trained to warn you about threats, that’s what he does all the time. Your mind tells you that something is danger or a threat, that this is something that you cannot do, and to better not do that other thing.
Instead of silencing the mind down, you should do what you would do with a friend. If a friend had a suggestion or they had a warning or a heads-up, what you would do is to reassure them. And that’s what you have to do with your mind.
The way to reassure your mind is by looking at experiences you have from other areas in the sense of, “we’ve done similar things.” You go back to your library of experiences in your life, and you look at that and say, “But we have done this before. It’s possible. We can do this.” You buddy up with your mind.
Number two: Choose to be courageous.
Which leads me to point number two, because I already can hear you saying “But you know, you don’t always have the experience.” Like for instance, when you are new to a job and you don’t have the experience to be able to step up and get the confidence you need.
In this case, you tap into something much more powerful than self-confidence. In this case, you tap into courage.
How do you do that? You just decide. You decide to be courageous. You decide to write that book, to marry that girl, you decide to have kids. It’s all a decision.
Courage is the thing that separates the high achievers from the people who are stagnant, because, look at this, if you do something new, anything new, you will not have the confidence you need because you’ve never done it before. So, courage is what’s going to have your back.
Number three: Create a compelling future.
Remember when I told you at the beginning, that you cannot close the gap with information, because it’s not held open by information? Well, it was not exactly the whole story. It is true, that you won’t be able to close the gap by using information that you gathered in order to answer all the questions that you have.
But you can use the information much more wisely. You can use information to create a pull. What you do is, you learn about the new place, you learn about the new life, you learn about the destination. You gather as much information as you possibly can to make this destination so attractive, that at some point of time you cannot NOT jump.
At some point of time, if you continuously picture and visualize your goal, if you constantly bring it back onto your radar, if you constantly think about it, you will reach a point of no return.
You will reach a point where you have created such a vibrant picture of your future, you’ve brainwashed yourself so much and you have created such an itch, that you can possibly not afford not to do it.
And what comes then, after you jump? Well, after you jump comes the hard work. But that work and what comes after is very targeted.
Before, information was rather distracting and confusing, and didn’t help you to make a decision. Once you make the jump, you will do the information gathering much more specific, much more targeted to help you move forward.
In order to summarize these, two things:
- Number one: courage eats confidence for breakfast
- Number two: you have to create a picture of your future that is so compelling that you cannot afford not to do it.
I hope that inspired you and gave you some ideas of how to tackle a situation when you are at the gap, at the abyss of a decision, of a big change in your life and you don’t feel comfortable, you don’t feel you have enough information.
Just jump. Take the courage and jump, and things will go well.
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Now, go out and live a life that is worth copying.
Until the next post, all the best.