A very famous quote says “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” It carries a very simple message, in that when we doubt ourselves, when we question whether we can do something or whether we cannot, very often we don’t even start.
We wait for that fear, for that doubt to go away. But it will never go away. Therefore, as many successful people say, we have to “Feel the fear and do it anyway.”
So we should embrace actually fear of failure for what it is, a compass, a guiding star, something that is actually very human. Not try to avoid it.
Fear of failure is a good thing, because fear of failure is what makes us want to succeed, what makes us want to avoid it, what makes us give it our all.
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Hi everybody, it‘s Tasso.
I believe there are two kinds of people: those people who love series, you know, CSI, Orange Is the New Black, and Game of Thrones, and there are those people who like movies. I am one of those. I like movies. I love movies, in particular I love Hollywood movies.
In my closest circle of friends there are not really many people, who share my view or my passion. They find Hollywood movies are shallow, very often superficial, they are very patriotic. They prefer those independent movies, those low-budget movies, that are a little bit closer to reality, let’s say this way.
Although I appreciate the wake-up call of these movies and the way they paint a realistic picture of the situation, I still prefer the Hollywood movies, because they paint a brighter picture of the future. They show a way the things could be or should be. It’s more inspiring for me. Maybe I’m a dreamer or an idealist, I don’t know.
So today I wanted to share with you a thought that I had after watching one of those Hollywood movies just recently. The Hollywood movie was Star Trek. Now, I can imagine what just happened. When I talked about Hollywood movies maybe my audience shrinked by half, and I lost maybe another 80% when I talked about Star Trek.
But those, who are with me, please, stick with me, because it’s not about the movie itself, it’s about the message and it’s about the thought and the inspiration that came out of it. So in Star Trek Beyond, the Star Trek movie of 2016, the Enterprise is attacked by very powerful alien species and they have to abandon the ship, because the aliens destroy the Enterprise. The crew has to save themselves and to escape.
And Spock — you know Spock, right? The guy with the spiky ears, the Vulcan. He manages to escape to the near planet with the doctor of the Enterprise, Dr. McCoy. He is very badly injured. They try to hide on the planet because they are haunted down by the aliens.
Spock is now -really in pain, hallucinating- philosophizes about life and death. He cannot possibly understand why humans would fear something that is so inevitable, so he says to Dr. McCoy, “Fear of death is illogical.”
Of course he would say that, because he is a Vulcan, remember? Vulcans are driven and guided by their logic and not by emotions. So he says to Dr. McCoy, “Fear of death is illogical.” Dr. McCoy turns to him and says, “Fear of death is what keeps us alive.”
That was a big “aha moment” for me, because it is so true. Fear of death is a good thing. Fear of death is a good thing, as long as it does not keep us from living, as long as it does not paralyze us. As long as it fuels us, and drives us forward, it’s a good thing.
Because the fear of death is what makes us want to avoid it. The fear of death is what makes scientists try to prolong life. The fear of death is what makes us to seek meaning in our lives.
Then I took this a little bit further and I thought, “But wait, this is exactly the same thing with fear of failure.” Fear of failure is a good thing, because fear of failure is what makes us want to succeed, what makes us want to avoid it, what makes us give it our all.
So we should embrace actually fear of failure for what it is, a compass, a guiding star, something that is actually very human. Not try to avoid it. There is a very famous quote in fact, I’m sure you’ve seen it somewhere, it says, “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” It means a very simple thing, that when we doubt ourselves, when we doubt whether we can do something or whether we cannot, very often we don’t start doing something and we wait for that fear, for the doubt to go away, but it will never go away.
There is another very famous quote that many successful people say. It says, “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” The fear of failure will never go away, so it is all about feeling that fear and doing things anyway.
Let me give you another angle of looking at failure: you can’t really possibly fail. Many people say, “You can’t fail – you learn.” You need to look at it also from another perspective, that if you don’t quit what you’re doing, if you don’t stop what you’re doing, you can’t possibly fail. Even if you stop and if you quit, normally it is because you decided you want to take, maybe, another road, you want to take, maybe, another direction. So if it’s a conscious decision, then, again, you can’t possibly call this a failure. It is another step in your life.
As I say, you cannot possibly fail, because the only way you can say that you failed in something, is when you say, “I’ve tried it all, there is nothing else I can do.” This is considered a failure. I guarantee you, however, that very rarely people give a 100%. There’s always something that you can do, there’s always something else that you can experiment with. So nothing really is a failure until you stop trying. If you’re resilient, if you keep pushing forward, there is no such thing as failure.
So this is why fear of failure is really something that we need to embrace, to accept but then move forward as it is.
You and I both know, let’s say it this way, that at the end of our lives, when we meet our personal deadlines, we will, of course, to be afraid. I believe that we’re not going to be afraid that we’re going to die. I believe that we’re going to be afraid because we have not given everything we got. We have still so much more to give to our kids, our grandkids, or to the world.
Fear of failure is something irrelevant indeed, because if you want to fear something, if you’re really so keen on fearing something, you should fear that you have not given it all, or you should fear that you have not tried everything you wanted in your life. That’s what you should be fearing, not fear of failure.
Quite heavy, huh? All these things are from a line in a Star Trek movie, in a Hollywood movie.
I hope you liked this and I hope this inspired you a little bit, and showed you that there is some truth and some inspiration in many things around us, even in a Hollywood movie.
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Until the very next post. All the best.